I’m a dreamer. A very self-conscious, introvert dreamer. All my life I’ve been hyper aware of what other people think about me. I never let people take pictures of me because I was anxious about looking “ugly” or “fat”. Whenever someone behind me (e.g. in the bus) laughed, I secretly thought they were making fun of me. I looked in the mirror and didn’t like what I saw, at all! But if I learned one thing in my 21 years of existence than it’s that others feel like that too. Everyone has their little insecurities! And if we were all sitting in a room, asked to raise our hands if we ever felt personally victimized by our self-esteem, I’m sure even Regina George would raise hers!
I’m not like that anymore. Sure, I still have my bad days and sometimes I really wanna cry because I don’t look like a Victoria’s Secret angel. (Have you seen their legs? Have you seen their hair? Have you seen their faces???) But generally speaking, I did get a lot more self-confident in the past few years. So I thought I’d share a few little tips and tricks on how to be more self-confident.
Collect ’em good vibes: Good vibes attract good lives. If you stop having negative thoughts and try to be happy instead you’ll soon realize that you start to feel better. A lot of the things that happen in life are affected by our mindset. Same applies to the people in your life. Don’t dwell on those who do not support or appreciate you. It might seem harsh but if your “friends” always drag you down, they might not be the right ones after all.
Listen to your body: My body needs chocolate – lots of it! No but seriously. I tried to live on a diet and it never really worked for me! When you start listening to your body you’ll soon realize that it only has the best intention for you. Whether that means eating a
(healthy) cake a day or a (real) cake a week.. I don’t know, you do you man! Stop trying to do what others tell you is “the right way”. There’s only one right way of doing things and that’s the one you decide to go.
Embrace your imperfections: Nobody is perfect and everyone has their little insecurities. But isn’t that what makes us special? And I for my part want to be a special snowflake. I’d rather be a unique mess than a boring copy of someone else. Make yourself familiar with your features and embrace every little part of your body. You have stretch marks? Consider them your battle scars, you are now a warrior. You don’t have a thigh gap? Well that brings you one step closer to being a mermaid, awesome!
Do what makes you happy: … and stop trying to impress others. Pursue your dreams and try to live the life you want to, instead of doing what you’re told. I know this might seem frightening but it will definitely be worth it in the long run! Another problem is: We always compare ourselves to others. But the things is: they do the same, and they might even compare themselves to you. Kind of stupid, isn’t it? Instead of doing that we should all focus on ourselves and do what makes us happy!
Selfies, selfies, selfies: This might sound a little superficial. And you know, maybe it is. But taking selfies (and uploading them to social media) really made me feel better about myself. For example do I have this weird little skin fold thingy next to my eyes and I’ve always been super aware of it. However, no one ever commented on it or even seemed to realize. Yes again, sounds super dumb but I do like it when people comment that I’m pretty on my selfies. But then again, who doesn’t? That’s why we all upload them in the first place. And boy does it feel good!
Step out of your comfort zone: I know its frightening. And I know it takes a lot of courage. But stepping out of your comfort zone is literally the best thing you can do to yourself. You gotta go out, explore the unfamiliar and jump into cold water in order to grow as a person. But honestly, I’m scared too! But if I wouldn’t have stepped out of the cozy little corner that’s my comfort zone I would never be where I am now *cough*blogging*couch* and I couldn’t be any happier with my life right now.
Do you have any other tips you want to share?